I’m not a New Year’s resolutions type of person, but I have to admit new year’s beginnings often make me pensive. I’m not necessarily looking back at what I did in the previous year, but rather at where I am right now and what’s to be improved in the close future about myself (there’s always something to improve about ourselves, right?).
A few months before, I stumbled into this cute video embedded below that talks about things that we should say more often. It made me smile and say “You know what, I should write something on my blog about this”. So here I am going through the things Kid President mentions (and modifying them to my preference) and adding a couple of my own. Bonus: some things we should really try to say seldomly 🙂
Let’s begin with things that we should say more often:
And not just on Thanksgiving, right! :) Say it when the others least expect it. But don’t overuse it, please! Or you’ll risk spoiling its true power. If I am your friend and I’m helping you with something, you could just thank me once, at the end, right?
Ok, this one’s tough. Mean it, don’t just say it. Is it really something you did wrong or that might bother others? Don’t be the kind to bump into people to get to a destination first and then think it was fine to be mean/dishonest just because you said “Excuse me”.
I’m not a fan of (GMO) corn or unhealthy fast-food, so I’ll go with the chocolate (which has sugar, I know, and is still unhealthy, but at least makes people happy). Do small things, give small gifts that make people happy. Trust me, it’s so so so rewarding!
Another tough one, especially if you’re a little prouder than the average. Don’t say it if you don’t mean it, but do you’re best to actually get to the point where you realize you mean it. At the end of the day, what is it that really matters for you? 😉
I wish I knew how to teach others to forgive. I personally sometimes forgive too much (or too easily). But wait, I’m not doing bad at all, so I guess forgiving too easily isn’t necessarily something to complain about. Is it worth carrying negative thoughts or feelings with you? Doesn’t it feel heavy? And if you really feel you’ve moved on, why not saying it? Free others from the burden of guilt – let them know that they should stop worrying.
Believing in people can make your life better, trust me. And letting them know about it can make more lives better 🙂 Nowadays, everyone knows how powerful our thoughts can be, so I don’t need to insist on this point. But I’m not sure all of us are aware of the power of words (that we really mean, of course). As far as I’m concerned, interacting with people is what really feeds me with energy and happiness. Looks and gestures are extremely powerful, but they cannot always replace words. So if you really believe in that person standing in front of you who’s facing a challenge, say it, for God’s sake! Kind words go a long way.
This is definitely one of my favorites! In the video below, you won’t find that, but “I’ve got barbecue sauce on my shirt, too”. I’d like to go a little further: before we criticize others, let’s first look in the mirror. If you burn your neighbors house down, it doesn’t make your house look any better, right?
This one’s strongly connected to the previous one. Let’s say we don’t want to criticize anyone, then why not try to understand what the others are going through and hold their hand? Make someone else’s pain as meaningful as your own; you might eventually learn how to overcome certain struggles before you actually face them. But what matters the most is that you might actually help someone stand up and fight. How victorious!
It doesn’t really matter how strong we are – each of us has its moments of discouragement and fear and pessimism. Do we need people telling us to give up?! You bet not! As long as you yourself believe it , then say it, repeat it, shout it :)/
Just like “Thank you”, it’s easy to forget this one as we get caught up in the world with our busy lives. Don’t be lazy and don’t exaggerate.
And, please, do pay attention to the tone of your voice.
Another tough one, right? I somehow grew up with the idea that I always have to have the best answer, and that might’ve usually worked in school, but not so often in life. One day, I realized I don’t actually lose anything by saying out loud (or only to myself) that “I don’t know. Period”. Acknowledging our ignorance is the first step to overcoming it (but you do have to want to change the status-quo). Also, if we leave facts aside and refer to life situations (when answers are far from being easy), saying “I don’t know” can be the first step towards looking for support.
As in .. I am proud of you. I am happy for your achievement(s). I am grateful to be your friend. I honestly respect who you are. I think you rock. You are darn sexy. I could fall in love with you on a daily basis. Etc. 🙂
This one is way too awesome! Too bad I haven’t said it in years. Honestly, do we really need alcohol to just do that from once in a while? 🙂 What’s the worse that can happen?! Actually, the idea that some people might react negatively to this freaks me out.
Indeed, sometimes that’s the best thing you can say. Especially if you’re angry or too excited and you feel you can’t wait to open your mouth and let the words fly.
Note to self: you should really practice this one more often. You could hum a song instead ..
I’m honestly considering doing a workshop with people that don’t know how to do that 😀 Let’s stop taking life too seriously! Relax and kid around; after all, do you enjoy feeling old (and boring)? 🙂
And I still like you, even if I don’t agree with you. Just like in the video, it’s ok to disagree, but it’s not ok to be mean. Nop. Watch out for your tone and make sure you always keep in mind that no stake is high enough to justify a ruined friendship.
Dare to let yourself be amazed from once in a while. By small things, by (the same) people (whose faces you see everyday), by a color, by a yummy dessert or an awesome medium rare steak. By a book, a movie, a good-looking bum (oops!). Whatever ..
Here are a few other things that we should say more often and that I’m not commenting on because: 1. this post is becoming too long; 2. most of them are obvious.
What about the no-nos? Here are some things I consider we should really think twice before saying them:
- I am right/You are wrong
- I hate you
- Leave me alone
- *not saying anything*
- It’s your fault!
- Why do you always have to (insert reproach here)?
- I don’t care!
- You’re not good enough!
Finally, here’s the video I got my inspiration from. I’d love to hear your thoughts: what would you add to this list? Which are the ones you think you should practice more and why?
Thank you! 🙂